You are meant to achieve great things. It’s time to restore hope in yourself and rebuild the core connection that will lead you to success. Learn from Mira Rubin as she shares how you could reconnect with your core. Mira is a transformational coach and podcast host who is committed to helping people reconnect with their core being and to find their authentic expression in the world. She shares how she found a way out of pain by seeking modalities, techniques, answers, and solutions throughout her journey. Listen to this episode as she shares her beliefs and ultimate truths.
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Your Core Connection: Discover Your Mission And Purpose In Life With Mira Rubin
Mira Rubin is a transformational coach, visionary and author. She is the host of two podcasts Sustainability Now and The Core Connection. Mira is the originator of The Core Connection Process, which is a unique synthesis of the evolution of multiple modalities, including neuro-linguistic programming hypnosis and applied kinesiology. The Core Connection work often precipitates miraculous shifts that result in expansive new opportunities and accomplishment and an expanded experience of freedom and empowered stewardship of life.
Mira, thank you so much for joining us here. It’s a pleasure to see you again.
I am so delighted to be here with you, Tim. Thank you.
I was hoping you could start us off by letting us know a little bit about how you got into the work you do and what drives your passion for it.
The reason or the driving force for getting me into the work that I do is that I was searching for a way to fix myself. I felt very broken for most of my life. I was always seeking modalities, techniques, answers, solutions. I had prior experiences but when I was about 30, I took training in hypnosis, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, and something else called One Brain, which introduced me to emotional intelligence and muscle testing.
I’ve been working with that for years. Since I was a teenager, consciousness has been my most compelling curiosity. All of that combined, it really compelled my interest and my desire to find a way out of the emotional pain and depression that I had been experiencing for most of my life.
How long have you been doing the work in the format that it’s currently in?
That’s hard to say because it really has been an evolution. The work has educated me. I would say probably easily more than five years but it’s been more than a 30-year process.
What’s the typical clientele that you work with?
Always search for a way to fix yourself.
My work is really not for people who are new to transformation. It’s not for people who haven’t done a lot of work already. On the other side of that, who it is for are the people who are schooled in emotional intelligence, typically the teachers, healers, therapists, the transformational people that already had enough foundation to be accepting their responsibility for the quality of their lives. To recognize that they have the ability to shift and change things, they’ve moved out of victimhood into creatorship in one way or another. Those are the folks that I work with.
Am I assuming that doesn’t necessarily mean people have to be a certain age?
Not at all. I’ve worked with people of all ages. The youngest person I worked with was maybe ten. I worked with people in their 70s, all the way through, 20s, 30s, 40s, the whole gamut.
How do you introduce the type of work you do or the process you do when you’re talking to someone?
The work that I do is indescribable in terms of the results. I explain it as an evolution of NLP, which is Neuro-Linguistic Programming and hypnosis. I speak a shamanic work because it engages people on other than a conscious level. It’s dream time kind of stuff, too. The language is so inadequate to describe, the experience that people have of radical transformation. The way that I introduce people to the work is by giving a session.
The reason for that is I’ve worked with people who, that at the beginning of a session, were filled with self-hatred that they’d had throughout their lives. At the end of a session, that self-hatred is gone. I’ve worked with people that felt suicidal and not had acted on it but we’re thinking of dying a lot and having that shift. As radical as that might be for the person who experiences it, my recounting of it doesn’t carry the impact that experience has when it is a personal experience. Does that make sense?
Exactly. My experience of your work because we did a session before, was it’s just a process. It’s not really a technique.
I don’t know the distinction. What’s the distinction?
It’s like, I don’t have to follow a format or a formula. I don’t have to have a device that I learned to operate. This leads into my next question for you, which is, how do you conceptualize, how do you think about what that transformational process is? What drives that? How do people get the results they get when they do the work with you?
We don’t have an adequate explanation. It looks like magic. The way that I conceptualize it, it may or may not be true is that the reason the process works so powerfully is that it is largely driven by my clients other than conscious intelligence. It may or may not be true but I believe our other than conscious intelligence, I say that rather than unconscious because unconscious means it has its own implications, it has all the answers that we need.
That is very prevalent or foundational to this work. It’s not a technique but there are certain guideposts to the way that I do the work. One of the things is nonjudgment. The way that the work is done allows us to be present to what’s going on for us without judging. One of the greatest impediments to transformation, in a therapeutic context, is a lot of self-judgment, self-analysis, and cogitation that creates a resistance to just allowing once there.
The foundational principle of the work is to be present to what’s there, allowing what’s there, whatever it is. Also, there’s a somatic component. There’s a, “What does it feel like in your body? What’s the emotion attending to it? What’s the visual or the conceptual piece?” Bouncing back and forth between these different elements and noticing what shifts just by allowing ourselves to be present to the experience.
It’s like going on the internal safari with a guide who’s never been there before but she knows not to panic.
Speaking of knowing not to panic, you never know where the session’s going to go. I’ve been in sessions with people that have had extremely, intense, emotional experiences on the way. That one thing that I spoke about earlier of the emotional pain that I had experienced, in my life has served me to allow me to be present with somebody in that moment of fear, panic, profound grief or whatever.
To allow that, it’s just a moment, and it is in the process of moving through. There have been 1 or 2 times that I got a little nervous about, whether we were going to get to the other side of it or not but it’s powerful. Some people experience intense emotion during the process, and other people, not at all. Other people go through it joyfully and still get the transformation.
That’s one of the things about when I’m working with people and they say, “How do you work with trauma? What’s the best way to work with depression or the best way to work with?” Name a label. My usual comeback is, “The best way is to remember you’re not working with that. You’re working with a person.” My experience of doing the work with you is that it’s very much just walk into whatever’s there. You’ve already mentioned the idea of observation on multiple levels and acceptance. For a lot of people, that’s a foreign concept, especially in some of the therapeutic modalities that have developed.
Identifying something as a problem, and trying to fix it was one of our big pushes for a long time in the psychotherapeutic realm. Many people have found that has limitations, labeling and then the cognitive structure around that, I can make some adjustments within that cognitive structure but I don’t realize what I’m missing outside of it, and the vast resources that each person has. That’s the thing I believe you help people tap into.
The thing that distinguishes my work from an LP, hypnosis or so many other modalities is that those are driven by the agenda of the practitioner. In this case, I don’t have an agenda. My agenda, if anything, is to be fully present to the journey that the other person is going on. I realized that I didn’t really create a context for folks to understand what this process looks like. I just want to lay the foundation so people can follow along with us a little better.
Accept responsibility for your life.
What I do in a session is I just start out by saying, “What is it we’re going to work on?” My initial question is, “What is your way of being if it were to change, would be life-altering?” Answers to that question vary from, “I wouldn’t have fear, I would feel better about myself, I wouldn’t feel like a loser,” or who knows those kinds of things? Once we establish what we’re working on or the arena that we’re in, I’ll say, “I set certain coordinates, this is the woo-woo piece of what I do, in time, space, dimension or whatever.”
I do that through muscle testing, that’s usually invisible to my client. It is actually a really important factor to the work and the effectiveness of it. I’ll say, “What’s the first thing that comes to mind?” I literally have done a session, as I told you, on popcorn and cotton candy. It’s because that’s the symbol that came up for this person and we interacted with it, and they had a remarkable result.
I’ve had other clients where they had all these horribly bloody visuals. There would be a result. I have had other people that have had just joyful travels through the woods and into the stars. The reason that it’s so powerful is that whatever those symbols are, arise from the consciousness of the person that I’m working with. Their inner map, so to speak, is making itself present in a way that doesn’t have to make any sense at all but that is untying of all the strings and wires that are keeping things bundled up the way that they were, and allowing for a change in experience and conceptualization.
When you say experience, my mind goes immediately to the physical as well as the emotional and the mental. That’s one of the things that people ask me, “What do you wish they would teach in therapy schools that they never taught you?” That would be it, there is no separation between the physical, mental and emotional. It’s just an energy system. It’s all connected in ways that we’re literally trained to believe the opposite of that, that this is discretely over here in one bucket, and this is over there in another bucket.
When you ask the question of me in the session, I make an answer but then, when you say, “What do you notice when that happens?” I start to feel physical sensations. There were just two broken bones in my past that came up in the session. I started to feel energy around where that injury was, and these injuries are 45 years ago or more. The value of being able to have someone like you guide a person into and through that connection without judgment or labeling, was really powerful.
I want to point out that the fact that you had the experience of two instances of broken bones, that was the first time in my experience of over a thousand sessions where someone had broken bone memories. I would venture to say that it was no accident that they came up, they were relevant to the topic that we were addressing somehow, those instances. People have all kinds of physical experiences, maybe just a crick in the neck that shows up, energy in the belly or where do you feel that behind your eyes, for example.
One of the pieces of this magic is creating that somatic experience, creating the integration of mind, body, energy, emotion, that we are an energetic system. You hit all my buzzwords. As an energetic system, emotion is energy. If it is ignored long enough, it will manifest physically in some way, shape or form. Plus, when we have physical experiences like physical traumas, bone break or whatever, then there are emotions that become part of that physical manifestation as well. It can stay for 40 some years. It’s like our bodies are a remarkable repository of information and energy.
That’s why it’s so important to be able to move emotional energy through. I hope I don’t get hate mail or something as a result of this. One of the things that I’ve noticed over years and years, is a high correlation between cancer and anger. I don’t know if you’ve noticed that in your work with people. I’ve noticed that there’s unresolved rage. If you think about it, anger consumes us. It’s interesting to be recognizing that it is all of one system, and the reductionist idea of looking at the body as a machine. “If this part doesn’t work, if we just fix this part, then it’ll fix the machine.” Things don’t really work that way.
There’s so much to say there, the love, medicine and miracles. Lots of people have talked about a correlation between intense negative emotions and physical distress. If it’s there long enough, it actually becomes a physical disease. There’s also the idea that we’re trained to believe that our thoughts are separate from our emotions, are separate from our body, etc.
If you observe children, you realize that’s not true at all. When they see something that’s new and get excited, there’s an emotional intensity that goes right along with the experience of taking in the sights, sounds, smells, etc. It makes really good sense to me that anytime I have an injury, whether it’s a sprained ankle, broken jaw or whatever, in that moment, I am this energy system that has thoughts, emotions, spiritual energy, and physical energy. It’s all being affected at that moment. It’s not a surprise that even if I’m not consciously aware of emotion at that moment, there is an emotion that’s registered in the system and can be tapped into us. We hadn’t experienced it a few days ago, 45 years later.
You can think of emotion as an energetic frequency, different emotions have different frequency patterns. It doesn’t matter if you think of it that way or not but I find it helpful. What I see is that we, in our upbringing, are in an environment that we were given all kinds of messaging. The way I see it is that we’re tuned to a certain radiofrequency. We believe that frequency is the reality. What this work does is kind of put the tuning dials back in your own hands in a way, and it releases that one station radio into being able to have more range.
There’s also the benefit of practicing awareness at a different level. It was Paramahansa Yogananda who said, “There is no such thing as the unconscious. Consciousness is what you’ve lived through.” There’s part of it that you’re willing to look at and part of it that you’re not. The part you’re not willing to look at, we call the unconscious. As I work with someone like you, I’m comfortable, confident and trusting. I’m trusting that this is going to be safe.
When these things bubble up because I’ve just been asked to notice them, rather than shying away or saying, “I’m having the automatic shutoff, that’s part of my consciousness, I don’t want to look at,” there’s more willingness to see what’s there. As I see what’s there, then I’ve got more access to it. I can tune into the frequency differently. I can let it flow through me differently. My experience of it becomes more conscious and more under my control.
What shifts in the pattern? What I’ve noticed in this work and it’s super powerful to be aware of it is that when we present ourselves to a sensation, that sensation moves, whether it’s an emotion or a physical sensation. When we can be fully present to it, it’s energetic. When we can allow it without judgment, just being present to it, it dissipates. I’ve seen that happen with myself and with clients, with physical pain, emotional pain. In our culture, we are taught and conditioned to ignore our emotions, deny our emotions, deny physical pain, tough it through, push past it, to judge. All of these things create resistance to the movement of that energy.
Recognize that you have the ability to shift and change things.
It reminds me of Michael Singer. He was talking about energy, and energy is always in motion. When we try to stop energy, we label it or deny it. All we’re doing is holding it in place, it’s still got to move. It moves in a circle and it spins. Other people will say, “That’s when it gets trapped, locked or stuck.” What you’re talking about is, if I bring my awareness and presence to it, without the judgment or the trying to push it away, it can flow. I don’t know where it’s going to go or what it’s going to do but it’s not going to just keep spinning.
That’s what I mean by allowing and presence. In pure presence, I don’t believe there’s judgment at all. Even in the context of a session, for instance, we might find observing and then judging ourselves. That arising in the course of a session says, “You’re recognizing judgment. Where do you feel that in your body? What does that feel like?”
What’s happening is it’s peeling off what I call overlays on our foundational self, soul, purpose or our fundamental being that is conditioned over the course of our lives, whether through deliberate indoctrination or through experience, then we develop these patterns. The tagline for my work, which I call Core Connection, is remembering who you really are. What it’s doing is releasing these overlays to create a greater experience of presence and freedom.
The overlays are the labels, judgments, the personality traits that I say, “I’m Irish, German. We do this, we do that.” I lock that in and I don’t open it to questioning. There was another rapid transformation therapy and the man used to say, “Watch your language.” What happened with the tense in your language when you say, “I don’t do that?” What does that mean? Is that past tense, present tense, future tense?
“I don’t remember having done that,” that’s more accurate. When I say, “I don’t do that, that’s not me,” then I locked in my thoughts structure, which is part of the whole energy system. We’re talking about emotions, thought and physiology, and I block a part of it. I lock it down with that judgment. One of the things that were so obvious to me in the work with you is it was just as fluid and nothing was locked down. It was, “Then what and now what?” This fluid moving through, which helps first identify, and then release some of those judgments as you hit them in a session.
When we judge, there’s a dynamic that we’re creating ourselves as separate from ourselves. What you’re talking about is talking about identities. This is one of the reasons that I work only with people who have done work. It’s because this work is about letting go of identities and that can be very frightening. I’ve had people show up to sessions saying, “I’m scared out of my mind. I don’t know what’s going to be on the other side of this because here’s who I think I am. If we’re working on that, who am I going to be on the other side?” It’s so fascinating because who you are on the other side is more of who you really are.
The fear that comes into the conversation is the fear of not knowing or the unknown. For instance, people will have a pattern of speaking poorly to motivate themselves to do stuff. Like, “If I don’t kick myself in the butt, I’m not going to do anything.” There’s an underlying belief that I’m lazy, I’m not good enough, or something. In the face of, “What if that were to change? What if you didn’t do that anymore?” There’s like, “Who would I be? Who would I be without that? I’ve done that all my life. That’s who I am.”
What I talk to people about that is that I can’t be afraid of the unknown, unless I’ve projected something negative into it. What if I become the most magnificent specimen of this, that, or the other thing ever? I then get excited about letting go of the old and moving into the new.
Some people get frightened by being the most magnificent specimens, too.
It’s because they’re imagining loss and separation from their loved ones, not being able to connect with their family of origin. I’m always aware that when I have a fear come up, it’s false. One of the bottom line observations I have is if I have a negative thought about myself or somebody else that’s active in my mind or negative emotion, I can instantly know three things.
The first one, it’s a lie or based on a falsehood. Number two, it’s an old tape playing. It’s not about what’s going on in the present moment. Number three, if I take an action from that, I’m just going to make my situation worse. I can’t improve my life situation by dumping negative emotions on or acting from the space where the negative emotions would drive my perception and behavior. I’m thinking in terms of watching our time. I want to make sure we have plenty of time to talk about it. Are there other aspects of the work or the way you want to put yourself out there as the therapists that we haven’t mentioned yet?
I am going to reject for myself the word therapist because I don’t have any of these traditional credentials. I won’t call myself a therapist. I call myself a transformational coach. The reason that I do that is that people think they know what coaching is. The work that I do is transformational, it’s not limited just to the Core Connection work.
How I would put myself out there is to be someone who is committed to helping people reconnect with their core being and to find their authentic expression in the world. I have a lot of beliefs and ideas, and I entertain them as hypotheses, not as ultimate truths. One of those beliefs is that we all came here to do something unique and special and that we all have a purpose.
One of the things that drives me in the work that I do is to support people in finding their way onto that path if they are not on it. If they are on it, support them in fulfilling it to the greatest capacity that they can. It can be creating a lovely family. It can be healing relationships with family. It can be doing something that changes the world, whatever full spectrum our purpose can be. It doesn’t have to look grand to the outside world and they can.
We all came here with a unique song to sing and our lives are much happier, and fulfilled when we do that and when we are in alignment with that. This is a time in our history as humanity, that we need people to be connecting with their soul mission and purpose now more than ever. If we were all in alignment with that purpose and beingness, the world would be a much different and better place.
Allow presence and don’t believe there’s judgment at all.
In each individual’s lives, we’ll be more content or fulfilling. It’s one of the things that if you talk to a functional medicine practitioner, they’ll say, “We need food. We need water. We need sleep.” We also need a sense of purpose in life. We need a sense of community and connection to love. Those things are every bit as valuable as the solid nutrients that we put in our lives, in terms of their contribution to a whole life that’s enjoyable.
Maybe even more important than solid nutrition, because if we’re committed to purpose, we may take care of ourselves in a very different way.
In a way that just flows from letting the truth of life act on us, rather than have us judging what it should be.
The thing about the path of purpose is it’s not for cowards. It is a Hero’s Journey. It doesn’t mean that life becomes instantly easy. It gives us a sense of meaning and resilience that we would not otherwise have. It gives us a North Star and a context by which we have the ability to rebound from the challenges of life.
I just flashed on The Story of Indra from Joseph Campbell because you said the Hero’s Journey. The association in my mind is the story of Indra, who was the King of the gods. Got overinflated and caused a problem, and then got deflated and caused a problem. The thing is, just be you and live into what you’re supposed to be. You may not be the person to send the next rocket up into space but your existence and interaction with your family, friends, and the people at the checkout stand is an important part of this flow that we call life.
That’s another big foundational part of the work that I do. That is recognizing our sufficiency. We, by virtue of being, are worthy. Our society is so focused and was so deeply indoctrinated to our worth being tied to what we do, own, achievements, how much money, and how many things we have. That is something that we have been taught to associate our value with. It’s just a lie.
As we come back to being able to be present and whole, we then have the ability to shift all the dynamics in the world that are taking us toward destruction. This constant need for more things, more technology, more being better but more is not better, more is just more. This is also a foundation of the work that I do. As we come back to our own wholeness, our own deep sense of connection and purpose, then things in the world shift, the dynamic of the world shifts. If we’re whole and worthy without anything extra that we need to prove ourselves, what would be different?
How are the ways people will look you up, is it a core connection?
YourCoreConnection.com. I have a very small practice, deliberately. I work with 10 or 12 people at a time. I have a three-month cohort. The next one is starting October 1st, and it’ll go October, November, December, then I take a month off, then another three months cohort, theoretically. I don’t really want my work to be transactional. What I do is I have a monthly fee and we schedule a session a week throughout the month. If people need more than a session in a given week, we schedule additional work. I have a once-a-week group session for about a half-hour where we celebrate our wins.
Once a month, one of those sessions is a longer session where I do some process. That’s how it works. There’s a description of that on my website at YourCoreConnection.com. I do it that way because first off, I don’t want to do one-off sessions. I really want to see people make the massive transformation. My ideal clients are people that are doing big things in the world, which gives me a way to multiply the influence.
I appreciate your sharing with us and being willing to give us your time. I look forward to a follow up. I’ll give you some more feedback on our session. I’m excited to find out how you train other people to do this. You talked about that multiplier factor. I’m framing a goal for you. You don’t have to accept it but I’m framing a goal for you to find a way to train other people to do this powerful work.
I am really grateful to you for bringing that up because this is really profoundly powerful work. The most powerful work I have found that to be reliably impactful. That said, I’ve wanted to train people to do this work so that it wouldn’t disappear with me. I would want people to have an experience of the work in order to be trained into it. The people that are my clients aren’t people that want to be “therapists.” I would like to be able to share this work and have people be able to carry it on, and there are guiding principles for it. I’ve thought for a long time about how I would train it. It’s just having the audience to train.
I’m sure the right people will hear this and reach out to you. I look forward to following up and finding out how that’s going.
Thank you so much, Tim. I donate this time to what you do in the world and you’re really generous commitment to people.
You’re entirely welcome and deserving. I will talk to you again before long with an update about our last session.
Thank you so much.
All right. Take care.
Mira is passionate about connecting people to their core mission and purpose. Her personal mission is to use her voice and multiple projects to support the mainstreaming of sustainable practices globally. The primary vehicle for this work, the Sustainability Now podcast. She shares hope, sustainability tools, and practices related to food, energy, housing waste, water, health, economics, consciousness, and more, with consciousness being the key. More about that at SustainabilityNow.global. The Core Connection video podcast airs live on the YouTube and Facebook channels of Enlightened World Network and addresses timely and timeless issues related to life, meaning, and being from a vantage point of expanded consciousness.
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About Mira Rubin
Transformational coach, visionary, and author, Mira Rubin is host to two podcasts: Sustainability Now and The Core Connection. Mira is the originator of the Core Connection process which is a unique synthesis and evolution of multiple modalities including NLP, hypnosis, and applied kinesiology. The Core Connection work precipitates often miraculous shifts of being that result in expansive new opportunities and accomplishment, an expanded experience of freedom, and empowered stewardship of life.
Mira is passionate about connecting people to their core mission and purpose. Her personal mission is to use her voice and multiple projects to support the mainstreaming of sustainable practices globally.
Currently the primary vehicle for this work, the Sustainability Now podcast shares hope and sustainability tools and practices related to food, energy, housing, waste, water, health, economics, and consciousness and more; consciousness being is key. (https://sustainabilitynow.global)
The Core Connection video podcast airs live on the YouTube and Facebook channels of Enlightened World Network and addresses timely and timeless issues related to life, meaning, and being from a vantage point of expanded consciousness.
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